Fear of making a choice....

I was going through vishal bhaiya's blog(my art of living teacher)..http://vishalmerani.blogspot.com/and read something about intelligence[crookedness] and innocense...
putting it in different words,in a way i look at it....
often in life,we find ourselves in great complications..confusions ,deli ma all hover around from all over.we don't get any way out and end up in tears and depressed souls...why these complications arise..why is it that we are not able to make things simpler...
its just because we try to make them simpler...or it's like we think it will be simpler this way while it turns out to be the other way...
the only thing that lies behind is this fear....
1.fear of choosing ourselves....[what if i choose my happiness..what if i do this or that...hey i want to do this..i feel its good for me..i will be happier this way but what will happen to those who are concerned with me...is it right and ethical to do so..what will others think..what are the possibilities that we will not hurt anyone..]
we often face this situation where we find it difficult to choose ourselves....i m not talking about the sacrifices..they are part of life..we often dont get what we want.we should be happy and move ahead..what i m talking about is something that we can have..something which is so close to us and still we let it go due to this fear....
2.fear of not choosing ourselves..[what will happen to me..mera kya hoga..what about my happines. ..i will do this or that but will i be happy doing this..]
this is the fear that keep us close to the thing we really want to be with or want in our lives...
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here starts the complications..we have to make some choice at last...because not only us but people concerned with us also go through the same...and our decisions effect their lives too..these complications will not arise if we make these decisions ...or choices....
very few are those who willingly without any fear or pressure choose ,not choosing themselves...just for sake of others happiness...and for those some people if we not choose ourselves,we just throw this fear out of us then world will surely be a better place to live...
that's innocence....
intelligence has become crookedness these days....if these innocent people use their intelligence..,yes world will be a great place to live in....
some acts are out of intelligence...some are out of innocence..
innocent are always used and exploited by intelligents..
there is lot of intelligence in the world..what we need is innocense..
keep the faith strong..there will be no stopping...innocence will give you lots of smiles at last..
so innocents must use their intelligence:):)

TRY THIS EXERCISE......

here is a simple exercise for all of us...stand straight or in whatever posture you would like to...note down the time and start laughing...you dont have to speak anything....
just laugh and keep laughing...try and laugh for atleast 1 minute...
when i say ATLEAST....be cautious and get aware of one fact..."it gonna be really difficult for you".
you might feel you are a stupid doing that..you might start gasping while laughing,may be you get tired and your throat nerves will be stretched to maximum,you might be looking at your watch with your hair in your hands just thinking why is it taking so long to get this one minute over?....

yes you got it right...this exercise of laughing at your best for just a minute is quiet difficult...
now sit in silence and think for a while...
when you are upset or when you are weeping,when you get hurt and get really depressed...
how long you take to come out of it...you will realise that the time consumed in all this is far more than the time you could actually laugh...
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how less do we smile in our life and how more we get sad or upset..it seems to be mathematical variables which are inversely proportional to each other....
we spend so much time in weeping getting hurt,being depressed or disheartened that we really have forgotten to smile....
so just keep smiling always...because if we see around us...life gives us lots and lots of reasons to smile...you just need to find some reasons for yourself....same as i always do...
AND FOR ALL WHO DON'T GET ENOUGH REASONS FOR SMILES...JUST GO AND TRY THIS EXERCISE...:):)
S.M.I.L.E